Some Days are just like that… A little (or a lot) difficult.
I had a day like that recently. I got emotionally sucker punched, yet again. I keep thinking I’m ready for it, know it’s coming and yet when it does, I am surprised. The good news is that I no longer spend days getting over it. My goal is that when it happens in the future, I will just think, “Ok that hurt. Breath. Move on.” Rather than waste a whole day on beating myself up for a self imagined future story.
One of the things that keeps me from doing that is my “good girl” mentality. If I got hit that hard, surely I must have done something to cause it. That is an old story .
My new story: I know I am in the right place, doing the right thing. Simply because I am here. The sucker punch came because of what someone else believes is truth. And as my very first therapist told me “Another’s actions may affect me, but is is not my responsibility to fix the world.” New thoughts for a good girl. I am choosing not to fix the world. I am only going to become more me and give that to the world.
So today I am going to move forward and have a history making day. How about you?
From one “good girl” to another, “I hear you!” It’s taken me a reeeaaallly long time to even begin to understand that I cannot change another person, no matter how much I want to. I have no ability to make someone see what they are not yet ready to see or cannot see. What I can do is learn to stand solidly in my own truth and shine a beacon of light that just might help another find their way. When we experience pain inflicted by another’s insensitivity it may just shine a light on a place within us that needs our healing attention. Wonderful blog, Jill! I can’t wait for the next one.
Loved this Jill-oh the lesson of learning what I am responsible for comes hard and usually takes awhile for us all. I am still learning not to respond to or fix, someone else’s negative world.